Role plays can be very interesting in a couple’s sex life, especially when used right. Several times after years in a relationship, monotony sets in. Unless couples do something to make their love life interesting and put in serious efforts to keep their relationship fresh, things can go wrong.
Sex toys work great in the bedroom. Couples who have already been in a relationship for a few years and have tried everything on their own can turn towards sex toys and introduce an element of fun in the sex lives. But what happens when you have already tried all the sex toys? What do you try next?
Role plays can be perfect at that point of time in the relationship. One of the most popular role plays is bondage. Bondage is when a partner in being tied up or is restrained for pleasure. Several couples tend to be shy and a little apprehensive when it comes to bondage role play.
If you have never tried it before with your partner it can be a little tricky to introduce it in the relationship. The first thing to know is that not all people would warm up to the idea. There are several people who would not be comfortable with it so you should never push the idea towards your partner if he/she is not comfortable with it.
The best time to introduce bondage in a relationship is when you are both already comfortable using other sex toys and are ready to move on to the next level. Gently broach the topic with your partner and make them familiar with the idea of bondage. Ensure them that it is only for fun and that you can stop at any time if he/she is not comfortable with it.
Bondage kits consist of several different items that include hand cuffs, whips, gags and other types of restraint toys. It’s best not to start with whips and gags; these are best used at the later stages. Begin with simpler items like a handcuff since that’s the easiest to use and most people would be quite comfortable with them.
Once you and your partner are comfortable with handcuffs you can always move on to the next level and use gags and other bondage toys. Safety and comfort are the two most important things when it comes to bondage so it is essential to ensure that no matter what you do always think about your partner’s comfort levels.
Role plays can be very interesting in a couple’s sex life, especially when used right. Several times after years in a relationship, monotony sets in. Unless couples do something to make their love life interesting and put in serious efforts to keep their relationship fresh, things can go wrong.
Sex toys work great in the bedroom. Couples who have already been in a relationship for a few years and have tried everything on their own can turn towards sex toys and introduce an element of fun in the sex lives. But what happens when you have already tried all the sex toys? What do you try next?
Role plays can be perfect at that point of time in the relationship. One of the most popular role plays is bondage. Bondage is when a partner in being tied up or is restrained for pleasure. Several couples tend to be shy and a little apprehensive when it comes to bondage role play.
If you have never tried it before with your partner it can be a little tricky to introduce it in the relationship. The first thing to know is that not all people would warm up to the idea. There are several people who would not be comfortable with it so you should never push the idea towards your partner if he/she is not comfortable with it.
The best time to introduce bondage in a relationship is when you are both already comfortable using other sex toys and are ready to move on to the next level. Gently broach the topic with your partner and make them familiar with the idea of bondage. Ensure them that it is only for fun and that you can stop at any time if he/she is not comfortable with it.
Bondage kits consist of several different items that include hand cuffs, whips, gags and other types of restraint toys. It’s best not to start with whips and gags; these are best used at the later stages. Begin with simpler items like a handcuff since that’s the easiest to use and most people would be quite comfortable with them.
Once you and your partner are comfortable with handcuffs you can always move on to the next level and use gags and other bondage toys. Safety and comfort are the two most important things when it comes to bondage so it is essential to ensure that no matter what you do always think about your partner’s comfort levels.
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There’s nothing like the sensation of being completely bound whilst other things are happening to you. There are lots of different materials you can use to tie each other up: metal, rope, canvas, rubber, plastic wrap, bandages, straps and webbing – but if you’re new to bondage the cheapest, easiest and most flexible material to use is rope. Here’s some advice for basic rope bondage (the Top is the one doing the tying up).
The best way to learn bondage is in person from someone who knows what they are doing. Ask at your local leatherbar if any local clubs or organisations run courses in bondage for beginners.
Blindfolding the sub at the start of the scene means that he can’t see if you’re making any mistakes or changing your mind as you go along. That gives the Top more confidence and helps the sub to relax and enjoy the experience.
Soft cotton rope is easier to knot and less likely to cause friction burns than rope with a plastic coating or rough surface. I recommend rope that’s 6-10 mm diameter for most bondage and thinner for cock and ball bondage.
Always be careful when pulling rope that you don’t cause a burn on your sub’s skin or flick the end of the rope into his eyes.
Consider how you would get the sub out of the rope bondage quickly in an emergency. A good rope bondage Top will own a pair of bandage scissors to cut ropes quickly and safely. You can buy bandage scissors from a medical supply shop or larger pharmacies.
Check the sub’s hands and feet regularly during the scene to make sure they are still warm. If the hands or feet are cold then loosen the appropriate ropes until his circulation improves. Don’t rely on the sub to tell you that his hands or feet have gone numb – he might not be able to tell.
Don’t tie rope around the sub’s neck, behind his knees or elbow joints, inside his wrists or any other pressure points. Apart from restricting breathing or circulation you could also cause nerve damage. Leather wrist cuffs are a good investment as you can attach the sub’s wrists to a variety of locations quickly and easily without cutting off his circulation.
Check that the sub’s breathing is unimpaired throughout the scene, especially if he is hog-tied or lying face down.
Each rope you add during a bondage scene will change the tension in the other ropes, so make sure you go back and check your earlier work at regular intervals to see that they are just tight enough to restrict movement without causing injury.
Think ahead to the final position you’d like the sub to be in. It’s no good tying him firmly into a position where you can’t reach the parts you want to play with!
Consider the sub’s stability. If he’s standing up and you tie his hands behind his back and then tie his ankles together, it won’t take much for him to fall over and be unable to break his fall – although he may break his nose or wrists. If the sub is standing it’s a good idea to tie his feet apart rather than together, and make sure he has some support at his arms or from ropes crossing him in front and behind.
Don’t tie the ends of ropes within reach of your sub’s teeth or fingers. Otherwise, while your back is turned he’ll be concentrating on undoing your handiwork. Use the middle of a rope to attach your sub’s wrist to a pole, hook or headboard – then take the ends of the rope somewhere else and tie them off out of reach.
You don’t have to buy expensive rope from a fetish shop. In London you can buy 10m of black cotton rope from a sex shop for £20 UK. A shipping chandler sells 10m of unbleached white cotton rope for £7 UK. However, in a magic shop you can buy 10m of brightly coloured soft cotton rope for just £3.50 UK. Before you say that black rope looks more sexy – think how hard it is to tie a knot in black rope in a dimly lit playroom. Also, if the sub is already blindfolded it won’t matter what colour the rope is.
It’s a good idea to wrap coloured sticky tape around the ends of the ropes to stop them from fraying. You can use different coloured tape as a code for different lengths of rope.
If you don’t have any suitable places to tie your sub to, buy some large hooks from a DIY store. You can screw the hooks into door frames or a wooden bed base to provide anchor points. You can always unscrew the hooks afterwards if you don’t want other people to see them.
Anna
Very Good Post Anna,
When is the next installment ?
Andy